Like Breeds Like

By Jen Kirsch

You’re in a good place. Things are going your way. Single, taken, or married — you send out an aura that affects the people in your life, and they feed off that energy and feel better, too. Able to draw on the same energy from them as a result, everyone is able to profit from your good mood. When you fall into a bad mood, the same thing happens, and it’s no wonder: you release that negative energy and spread it to others. Suddenly, this cycle of feeding off of each other’s emotions goes sour.

When something good happens, things seem to keep getting better; when something bad, it’s as if the world has turned against us. This can be attributed to our perspective. When things are going our way we tend to look at everything with confidence; when something negative occurs, we subconsciously begin looking at the glass as half empty. What we go through, how we view and interpret things, and the energy we emit based on the judgments we make is directly related to what we get in return from our partner.

I remember a time in my life where I was uncertain and unaffected. I hadn’t figured out myself, and somehow landed myself in a relationship with someone who had the same baggage. We brought out the best and the worst in each other. As a result, we both suffered. 

At the time, a wise elder told me that until I took the time to be independent, I would never attract the ‘right’ mate — right meaning someone who was good for me, and who would make me a better person.

As I got the courage to move on and spend time and energy finding inner peace, love, and happiness, I found these words to be true. I had separated myself from drama that for me, used to be normal. As a result, I attracted people who lived a balanced, healthy lifestyle – similar to me.

It’s important for us to be aware of what we give off and how we interpret the nuances and daily situations that present themselves in our lives. I’m not saying we alone are to blame for what happens to us. Still, we should invite healthiness to ensure a healthy state of mind. To be mindful of our part in this dance is to ensure that we are aware of what comes our way and why.

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