Bling, Bling, Cash Monies

Money, money, money you can never have too much but it never feels like you have enough; I had a discussion with a friend last week about how important money is in a relationship.

He went as far as to say that if Boyfriend didn’t have money I probably wouldn’t be with him — but here’s the kicker Boyfriend doesn’t have money.

I’m more established in my career, he choose a profession that requires incredible dedication and sacrifice and doesn’t pay much until it does and when it does he’ll probably make a lot more than I ever will. But money has never been an issue we’ve made sure of that.

I don’t believe in one sided relationships, I don’t expect Boyfriend to pay for every dinner, every night out or every trip we’re a team and we try to split things evenly. More importantly I’ve never been concerned about how much Boyfriend makes. He’s following his dreams and I’m following mine and the plastic in our wallets has nothing to do with how much we love each other.

I’ve seen relationships that were too one sided fail over and over again, someone is constantly paying more than their partner and in the end there is always resentment. Boyfriend and I are in our twenties we don’t have our finances entirely figured out and that’s okay, I’d rather watch Netflix and order take-out than go for a fancy dinner any night of the week. Money may be more of an issue when we’re older but for now I couldn’t care less.

I’ve heard women gush about the newest shiny thing their boyfriend got them, or the trip they were surprised with but for me a surprise is when Boyfriend walks in the door with a coffee and a smile cookie, it really is the thought that counts.

I blame the rom-coms for teaching women that love can be measured in presents and shiny baubles; I’ve had all that and it just makes me feel like he’s paying for my time and while my time in the office is costly I like to think of my bedroom as a money free zone.

Maybe I’m the exception rather than the rule but I’ve worked hard to get where I am in life and I’m proud that I did most of it on my own, I don’t want a man to pay for my way in life and any relationship built on that will never really be equal.

So when my friend said that I wouldn’t date a man who didn’t make any money, I laughed and told him that wasn’t the case; I am currently dating someone who makes less than I do but that doesn’t make him less sexy because it’s his ambition, his drive and his fire that turns me on. Money will never be sexy, unless you’re into paper and plastic, if all your relationship is about is finances than maybe you need to rethink what you’re doing. After all, love don’t cost a thing… or something like that.

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Three little words

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Rob Ford, the man at the centre of the biggest scandal to hit Toronto politics in recent memory, made a surprise appearance on the John Oakley Show on AM640 this morning to set the record, erm, somewhat more straight in the light of the recent bombshell that the police have a copy of the video that shows the mayor smoking an illicit substance, widely reported to be crack cocaine.

The show was troubling, not only to those who long ago gave up on the troubled mayor, but to those who have steadfastly supported him throughout his personal troubles. He admits flatly that he drinks, making a liar out of his and his brother’s previous statements to the contrary. He also admits to being “inebriated” in public, again making lies out of his previous denials.

Here are some of the choice quotes from the radio interview.

“What else can I do Johnny? I’m only human. There are a lot of perfect people out there, I’m not one of them.”

“All I can do is apologise and move on.”

“Show the people, show everyone the video.”

“[Laughing] I am not an alcoholic, I am not a drug addict.”

“I don’t use drugs. I drink, don’t get me wrong, I’m the first one to enjoy a few cocktails.”

“I shouldn’t have went down to the [Taste of the] Danforth inebriated. I shouldn’t have had a pretty wild St. Patrick’s Day party in my office. I shouldn’t have done that.”

“If I’m an addict then I would not be able to show up for work every single day, and you know I do not miss work.”

— “Have I drank a little to much at times? You’re absolutely right”
— “A little too much?
— “A lot too much.”

“I like to relax like everyone else and I’m only human.”

“I can’t push a button right now and say ‘make this all disappear.'”

“I’m not here to make excuses.”

“I’m not commenting on anything to do with what’s before the courts.”

“With all due respect to you John, the media, and the papers, I don’t listen to you.”

“Doug will be provincial, he will be premier one day.”

“Any member of my executive committee, if you want to go, go. I’ll be running the ship, even if it’s by myself.”

Caller: “I think I would be a drunk too if I had to deal with the left wing council you have every day.”

“I knew John, there was cars behind me, cars here and they were hiding and so I called them and said I think I have people following me and they said ‘no, no one is following you.'”

“There’s gonna always be haters, Johnny.”

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This past week a photo began circulating online on social media showing that, even in the absence of a TTC employee or a coin box, many Torontonians will still pay their fare to ride the subway.

Take a look at the photo below.

Let us know:

Do you pay your fare even when there is no attendant on duty?

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