Aches and pains. They’re a part of life. I train an older demographic: ladies of “a certain age,” as I like to say. When people are first starting out in the gym, I often hear things like, “Well, I have back pain. But that’s to be expected. It’s just old age.” Is it?
Many of us seem to think that putting up with a growing assortment of aches and pains is part and parcel of getting older. But other cultures throughout the world demonstrate better aging than ours. (I’m thinking of Japanese centenarians who can still pop a squat, for example.) I won’t presume that these folks feel just as sprightly as they ever did but it’s fair to say that they feel good enough to keep (surprisingly) active.
There are a couple of problems with using “getting older” to account for feeling crummy. The first is that it can obscure the real reason why you feel that way. If I’ve got one bad hip, let’s say, then why doesn’t the other one feel just as bad? If it were all about aging then both hips would have gone bust because they’ve got the same number of miles on them. It’s quite possible that there’s a specific mechanical issue that can be addressed with proper exercise (and as a matter of fact, a good trainer will make it her business to look out for those issues).
[pullquote]“Well, I have back pain. But that’s to be expected. It’s just old age.”[/pullquote]
The second problem I see is that this kind of thinking winds up stopping older folks from doing stuff that will keep them healthy and well. If you think “getting older” is the only explanation for your aches and pains then you’re much less inclined to do anything about it. You do less. And the less you do, the less you can do. I’m not suggesting that age isn’t a factor in how people’s bodies feel and function but I do think that using it as a catch-all is getting old. (See what I did there?)
Is it possible to make the most iconic and quotable high school /girl flick / gay favourite movie even gayer?
The answer is yes, and Mean Boyz is the perfect compliment to everything we already know and love about Mean Girls. Singer, performer, Americal Idol semifinalist, and filmmaker Todrick Hall has put together this short (featuring Chris Crocker of “leave Britney alone!” fame) that leaves us wondering why nobody has done a full gay re-make of Mean Girls already.
Take a look at let us know what you think, is this the greatest YouTube video ever, or what?
I’m not a very romantic gal; I want a courthouse wedding and my idea of the perfect proposal would be, “Hey babe, want to get hitched?” So when it comes time for a birthday or an anniversary and girlfriend duties are required I’m not always sure exactly how to handle the situation.
Next week is Mr. Unexpected’s birthday. When it came time to make a decision about what I should get him I had all kinds of ideas but nothing really seemed right: it all felt like too much or not enough. I didn’t want to look like I was trying too hard, I didn’t want a gift that felt forced and I didn’t want a gift that would make him feel uncomfortable. I love birthdays and I love gifts but buying for a boy you love is full of pressure that I had forgot existed; and finding a gift that says I love you but not more than you love me and not in a weird “I want to get married tomorrow” kind of way is just as difficult as it sounds.
I settled on a sweater that I know he loves but thinks is too expensive to buy for himself and a movie that we saw together a couple of months ago. It’s a little bit of an inside joke because he thinks I wear his sweaters more than he does, as he lives in a basement apartment and I get cold easily, while Wreck-It Ralph is the perfect combination of video games and candy-coated animation and it suits us perfectly.
The gifts were difficult enough, but his party is tomorrow night and I’m really nervous to meet more of his friends. I really want them to like me and I know that most people either really like me or really don’t, such is the curse of the loud slightly inappropriate girl. So I worry what they will think of me, but worrying what people will think of you never really adds up to a good first impression, which means I’m spending a lot of time thinking about how to stay calm and cool.
I hope that in the end they’ll like me as much as he does, slightly less actually because awkward, but I hope that his friends are like him: fun and easy to get along with. I don’t have problems meeting new people, but the Big Ex never let me meet his friends and I can’t help but wonder, secretly and never out loud, if maybe there was a reason that he didn’t want to show me off.
So tomorrow I’ll put on my best girlfriend look and try to be as effortlessly charming as I possibly can; I imagine this will look something like a Zooey Deschanel movie. I am most likely wrong, but if I wear red lipstick and put on a wig with much longer hair I look a little like her… kinda.
While I was tasked with taking care of my roommate’s cat over the holidays I may have gone a bit overboard. The cat, Walter, has always been pretty standoffish and outright mean to me. It didn’t help our relationship that I’m pretty allergic to him and spend a lot of time shooing him out of my bedroom and vacuuming up his hair.
But while the two of us were alone over the Christmas season we developed a new respect for one another, a kindred friendship that shows through in a lot of my Instagram portraits of him:
Okay, maybe our friendship mixed with my loneliness around the house began to border on obsession, but hey, so long as we are both happy with the arrangement it doesn’t matter.
In our cramped apartment one way we had devised to save space was to place the cat’s litter box under the sink. I had taken off one of the doors to give the cat access, but while it had saved some space we were left with an unsightly litter box out in the open view of anyone who used our washroom.
The solution I came up with was to carve a cat shaped hole in one of the doors.
A couple of hours of sawing, patching, and painting later I had the finished product: Walter’s own little bathroom!
Walter seems to like it!
More privacy for him to do his business and less kitty litter on display with a cute outlook to boot! Looks like a win-win-win.
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