December 2014


What if he were a she?

The media response to Leonardo Di Caprio recent appearance would have been much worse if he were a woman

Recently the trash tabloids reported that Leonardo Di Caprio was seen leaving a night club with 20 women in tow. Most of the reports pointed out how surrounding himself with vacuous faces was pathetic, but all seemed to take glee in his exploits. Imagine how much harsher the reports would be if  he  had been a she.

Take the statement below for example and replace his name with a woman the public sees as sweet and innocent – Anne Hathaway — and try to imagine the tabloid reaction.

Leonardo DiCaprio Anne Hathaway reportedly left a nightclub in Miami last night with 20 women in tow. The tone of the coverage of this mass exodus from the VIP room has been gleeful, fist pumping, and congratulatory.


Had he been a she the tone of reporting would have been much harsher. If a woman were seen leaving a night club with 20 men in tow the narrative reporters would use would include words like, slutty, a tramp, or a woman desperate for attention. They might also throw that she was crazy, or not operating with a full deck

Why is it that we are still bogged down by these archaic social customs?

The answer is simply that the media has become little more than a microphone to broadcast our crudest and most spiteful responses to those who break with social customs. To expect more from these reporters is naïve and ignores the fact that our individual responses and standards are what should be questioned.

So the next time you read a gossip column telling you that a woman is slutty, crazy or both question the very notion of the words they have used to describe her and then shut down your computer, pick up a copy of Vagina by Naomi Wolf and read it.

Gingerbread cookies from Acton

While you might know Acton as the town with the Old Hide House – it’s also a great little town to visit over the holidays. This recipe came from my grandmother – I still remember visiting her for Christmas and spending the afternoon in her kitchen helping cut out gingerbread men.


1 cup butter, softened
1 cup brown sugar
2 teaspoon baking powder
2 teaspoon ginger
1 teaspoon nutmeg
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1 cup molasses
2 eggs
2 tablespoons vinegar
5 cups flour

• Mix softened butter with brown sugar until fluffy. Add baking powder, ginger, baking soda, cinnamon, nutmeg and molasses and mix well.
• Beat eggs into the mixture until creamy. Stir in the vinegar.
• Mix in the flour pat into two balls, cover with plastic wrap + refrigerate for 2 hours (you can freeze for up to 3 months)
• On a floured surface, roll chilled dough to a 1/4 inch thickness. Cut out shapes with cute cookie cutters.
• Bake at 375 degrees, on nonstick cookie sheets, for 6-8 minutes, or until browned around the edges.
• Allow to cool completely before decorating with icing and candies.

For the icing:

1 1/2 cups icing sugar
2 tablespoons butter softened
1 teaspoon almond extract
1 tablespoon milk

Instructions for making icing
• mix powdered sugar with soft butter. Add in almond extract and milk Icing should be stiff enough to use as a candy adherent.

Yield: Makes 8-10 dozen cookies

Breaking news – another man waving pocket knife shot by police in L.A.

It’s hard not to think that violence has escalated beyond reason. With more and more reports of white police officers killing innocent black men – this latest in L.A. – just hours ago.

Witnesses say the man was waving a Swiss army knife and the police officer panicked, it’s a story we are hearing far too often — and it is due to a lack of proper police training.

North American police forces need to take a lesson from their Japanese counterparts who are trained in taiho-jutsu, which translates to “arrest technique.” Using a gun has incredible consequences for police officers in Japan and it should here too. Why shouldn’t each and every police officer be required to have extensive training in martial arts so that they know how to disarm and find calm in a hostile situation? What is stopping us?

or here:

While many in the media are defining this a “racial tension,” the issue has much more to do with a lack of training, with a lack of respect for human life, and with a culture that puts the police above those they have sworn to protect. There are serious changes needed in our system of policing and to blame the police for their lack of training, or the victims (many with severe psychotic issues) is the wrong approach. Let’s fix the problem before it gives rise to more riots and unrest. The same conditions that create civil unrest are growing and it’s time to address the fact that North America has a very poor record when it comes to policing.

In August of this year in Ferguson, Missouri, a white policeman killed an unarmed black teenager and a grand jury refused to indict the police officer.
On Wednesday a New York grand jury cleared a white police officer for his July choke-hold of 43 year old black father of six.

Tonight another man was shot by police in L.A. why am I numb?