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Curry Scented B*tches take over social media

Every South Asian knows the childhood struggle of hiding their clothes in the most closeted spaces of their homes to avoid infusing their wardrobe with the aromas of their mom’s afternoon curry-cooking session. Not to mention the jokes and humiliation they endured during lunch time in elementary school when opening the lid of their tupperware to release the smell of spices into the air for all their unsuspecting classmates to inhale. The bottom line is, curry has a strong smell, but it tastes good– and it’s all South Asians eat.

However, after graduating from grade school and learning how to perfect the ways of avoiding smelling like curry when assimilating into western society, South Asians also put behind the days of ridicule and not so funny jokes. Or so it seemed.

It’s safe to assume that a woman by the name of Azealia Banks didn’t go to grade school. So, she’s using her adult life to make curry jokes aimed at former One Direction member and fellow South Asian, Zayn Malik. That too, through Twitter.

Classy.

However, what Azealia Banks didn’t realize is how thick-skinned brown people actually are — and how big Zayn Mailk’s fan base actually is. Yes, Zayn Malik may be the ”token brown boy” of the entertainment industry, but that’s the reason why all of South Asia and every brown woman across the globe is obsessed with the 23-year-old’s tanned skin and sharp features.

After an initial Instagram post accusing Malik of copying her style in a new music video, the 24-year-old rapper later called out the Pakistani-British singer, a “Punjab,” “dirty bitch,” “token brown boy” and “hairy curry scented bitch.” This provoked a social media frenzy, influenced by Canadian Youtuber, JusReign. Because unfortunately, these jokes are not new to South Asians. We’ve endured the same jokes for years. This time, thanks to the power of social media, JusReign took to Twitter to show us how to turn these jokes into compliments.

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With over a million subscribers on Vine and Facebook, JusReign, who was a recent victim of racism after a very public incident involving his turban at an airport, called out Azealia in a series of Tweets, including a photo of her in an old music video sporting a bindi, which is ironically derived from Indian culture.

Since then, thousands have taken to Instagram and Twitter to post fierce selfies embracing their culture. JusReign not only demonstrated what it means to be Canadian, he also showed the world the power of South Asian beauties. Yes, while millennials may seek any excuse to post selfies nowadays, it is empowering to scroll down my timeline to friends and families rocking their khol and smiling into the camera while Azealia looks into her back up career plan.

She has since then (sort of) apologized for the incident.

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Thanks, Banks.

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Me too, Trainor!

Meghan Trainor is all about that bass.

So it’s no surprise that the release of her new music video, “Me Too” was quickly removed in lieu of a video retouching job that was not approved by the Grammy Award winner. Her waist was significantly smaller as she swayed from side to side in a blue ensemble belting out lyrics about self love.

“I took down the YouTube video because they photoshopped the crap out of me, and I’m so sick of it,” Trainor said, adding that she ”had a bomb waist” on her Snapchat. She was not aware of the final cut and thus, an embarrassing Photoshop scandal ensued.

Trainor’s decision to remove the video was not surprising. The singer has made a name for herself after her 2014 breakout single, “All About That Bass,” became a self-confidence anthem that celebrates bodies that are larger than the typical media norm.

The real #metoo video is finally up! Missed that bass. Thank you everyone for the support 💙

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This is not to say her actions were met without criticisms. A number of speculations have been making the rounds on social media as to why the video was truly taken down. It is being labelled as a publicity stunt by some and a guilty reaction by others. Questions are arising as to how Trainor could have not seen the final cut, as the star of her own video. When fans began to notice the evident ‘fixes,’ the video was awkwardly pulled down from the internet.

The problem is that there will always be controversy behind issues relating to body image and marketing. People don’t think its necessary to advocate for for positive body image in this day and age. It’s not like women have battled to feel comfortable in their own skin before or anything. Of course there’s a hidden agenda.

FYI, there isn’t.

The question is not whether or not Trainor noticed that her waist was synced in. Google Trainor and a suggestion pops up asking ‘Meghan Trainor size.’ There’s an obvious interest in this woman’s body. So it’s possible she may have taken it down due to embarrassment or she may have taken it down for a larger view count.

We’ve all deleted Instagram posts upon realizing it was posted at a time where you won’t get more than 10 likes. In a time where Airbush apps and photo editing tools are our best friends, it’s easy to get wrapped up in trying to meet the norms of society. The guilt that comes with zapping away a pimple in a pretty picture soon diminishes as the likes increase and heart emojis appear in the comment section below.

The issue we need to focus on here is that of body image and why the production studio even thought of photoshopping a music video with a message about body image. That conversation has lost itself in the midst of Trainor’s intentions, which we’ll never really know. Let’s not preoccupy ourselves. What we do know is that the conversation about body image and the media is a real issue that we need to tackle.

What are your thoughts on Trainor’s decision to pull down the video? Let us know in the comments below.

Here’s my story on mental health, what’s yours?

Those who know me can confirm that tears rolling down my face is a strong indication that I was laughing too hard – usually at my own jokes – or someone I care deeply about has fallen flat on their face and I caught the whole thing on my iPhone to blackmail them for the rest of their life. Once I start laughing, it’s hard to stop.

Given these small, well-known facts about me, it’s difficult to imagine that back in January, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. And with Mental Health Awareness Week wrapping up, I want to let it be known that everyone should be aware of their mental health. Here’s my story.

Being only 21 — and South Asian — my mental health struggle is something I’ve had to keep under wraps for the past few months. I identify as a perfectionist. I’m always under pressure to be above average, whether that be with my GPA, the way I showcase myself to family, friends, and even strangers on the subway, to my attempt at balancing my Western and South Asian values in midst of a being born and brought up in North America with strong cultural ties to Bangladesh. I was put on a pedestal since the day I was born and I’ve never forgotten the major mistakes I’ve made in my short two decades.
I started 2016 with a list of usual New Year’s Resolutions. However, a series of unfortunate events began to occur, exposing the fact that I wasn’t as perfect as I let everyone perceive me to be. The emotions I’m so used to bottling up began to surface. I started losing valuable things, failing to maintain and be present in relationships, and traded my smile for frequent, frustrated sighs.

I began losing my drive; something that has kept me going from the moment I had my first goals and aspirations. Waking up became an even greater challenge, the sound of my family and friends’ voices made me agitated, and the thought of being a functioning member of society made me want to shut down and move to Alaska. I fell behind on work and school and began to spend a lot of time in the confines of my bedroom. Breathing alone seemed to have taken more effort.

A week later, I couldn’t take it anymore. One question kept arising: “What’s wrong with me?”

Not having anyone to talk to about it without making me feel like a fragile arts student on the verge of a breakdown, I went to a walk-in clinic one morning. My family doctor has known me for years and I wasn’t prepare to watch her eyebrows shoot up while I told her about how I was feeling. Up until the walk-in doctor walked in and sat down, I kept rehearsing the same sentence. ”I was wondering if you can provide me with a referral to a therapist.”

I repeated that to myself for the 10 minutes I was alone in her office, memorizing what I was going to say, word for word.

“I’m just looking for some information on how to deal with, um, mental health… issues.” I replied when a young woman sat down and asked what she can do for me.

Dammit.

I saw a flash of concern on her face appear and then quickly disappear as she pulled up a website and started asking me a list of questions about my feelings and what’s going on in my life to cause these feelings. I answered them one by one, quickly confirming the doubts I had about possibly having depression and anxiety. After 15-20 minutes of talking, she concluded that I was right.

“Great, so I was wondering if you can provide me with a referral to a therapist.”

The pretty doctor and I shared a couple of nervous laughs and awkward stories about things she would probably tell her family about at dinner that night. She told me about the three month wait to see a therapist and how it may not be possible for me to cope with my emotions until my appointment. To help me cope, she prescribed me with 30 days of anti depressants — without a referral to see a therapist. She didn’t tell me about the side effects, but emphasized that she wanted to see me back in two weeks for a progress report.

I smiled and nodded, sort of relieved there was something that can make me feel better and feel a little more like myself. I went home with my bottle of happy pills that night and told my best friend, a health science and psychology student, what happened. I learned about the side effects and the misdiagnosis that occurred in that office. You aren’t supposed to give someone not struggling with clinical depression anti-depressant pills. She encouraged me not to take them and I promised her I wouldn’t.

Being stubborn — and partially curious — I took the pills for a maximum of three days. They took away the difficulty to breathe, but brought on drowsiness, stomach aches, dizziness, and nausea. I decided it would be easier just to come to term with the occurrences that went on in the past four months and learn to find closure. I never went back to follow up with the doctor after two weeks and she never followed up with me. In addition to occasionally popping pills I could’ve easily sold on the black market to my fellow university students on days where I felt really bad, I adopted a ‘screw that’ attitude and brushed everything off.

While others saw me coming back to my old, confident, slightly arrogant self, I will always see myself as selfish; a thought I’m trying to change. Because I find sometimes the best way to take care of your mental health is to, in fact, be selfish. My uncontrollable need to please people has somewhat improved, but the idea of putting myself first still seems unnecessary and undeserving.

Unfortunately, it’s evident that there are a lot of problems in our health care system. While Mental Health Awareness week is a great initiative, it’s important to provide help when the public becomes aware that their mental health may need some TLC. While I am able to manage my anxiety most days by shaking things off – a tactic I would definitely not recommend — not being able to provide mental health patients with therapists and psychiatrists will most likely lead to a larger amount of problems.

As we speak, there are a sea of lost and helpless men and women who probably don’t even know they are struggling with their mental health. They think they’re stuck in a rut; struggling to wake up in the morning, making their way through their 9-5 jobs while somehow coming home by 5:30-6:00 only to go back to bed again.

We shouldn’t have to ‘deal with it’. We shouldn’t have to hide it. I have come to terms with the fact that anyone and everyone can struggle with mental health illnesses. Even people that laugh at their own jokes.

I’m no longer afraid to admit that I’m having anxiety while I’m typing this very sentence, as I conclude my post and wait as my friends and family click on the link and find out that my ‘bad days’ are far worse than that. And while you will all be aware of this fact when you read this, you should also be aware that there is much more we need to do than just “be aware”. Here is my story. What’s yours?

If you or a loved one may be suffering with mental health illnesses, please visit mentalhealthweek.cmha.ca/ for more information on next steps.

#UnfairandLovely Campaign embraces dark-skinned women

Being Bengali, I grew up seeing a large spectrum of skin colours and features across the country my parents grew up in, including that of my family. Whether it’s frizzy hair, a round nose, or having no curves (or too much curves), there is always something to criticize when it comes to women and their genetics. I was always told how lucky I was to have fair skin. It was ‘a sign of beauty which not everyone is blessed with.’

However, living in Canada quickly showed me how untrue that was. Dark-skinned girls are beautiful! I stare in awe whenever my darker friends post on Instagram — many of whom are featured below — taking in their sharp features, not to mention they can contour their face without looking dirty. They can rock the colour orange, pop in yellow, and look amazing in teal. So, when the Unfair and Lovely campaign took off, it was of no surprise to me. Of course unfair girls are lovely. It’s just surprising society tells them they’re not.

The movement was first started a few weeks ago by Pax Jones and a couple of friends.

“My own lived experiences as a black woman inspired me to develop this photo series. Mirusha, who modelled alongside her sister Yanusha, later came up with the title Unfair & Lovely for the series. The series was purely a creative project that I developed to combat under-representation of dark skinned people of colour in media.” stated Jones, in an interview with Women’s Post.

Since then, the movement has blown up. Despite tanning salons and sun bathing being so popular for women in North America, others are putting lightening creams on their face and scrolling through Pinterest, looking for ways to become fair-skinned. From a young age, girls are told to stay out of the sun, taught how to use face masks with lightening properties, and instructed to avoid drinking tea because “it makes your skin darker.” Therefore, when a group women come forward to tell you you’re ‘unfair and lovely’, it’s actually a rare compliment.

The campaign is a grassroots movement that has been fuelled by the leadership and activism of young women all over social media, and it is definitely important that their voices be centered in this conversation.

kavi“I am an Indian woman, I am dark skinned and I am proud. The #UnfairAndLovely campaign to me is a well overdue step forward in certain communities that are mentally 10 decades behind than the people of today’s generation. I have been blessed to have grown up in a family of amazing beings that have taught me to love what’s underneath the skin and to ‘never judge a book by its cover’. It has allowed me to feel comfortable in my own skin and to support this movement whole heartedly in hope for a change that urge both men and women to put down fairness creams and take up the debate for a responsible media that doesn’t attribute success and beauty to skin colour,” said Kavi Anand, currently attending the University of Waterloo.

This isn’t the first campaign to embrace and empower women of colour. Reclaim the Bindi, which is collaborating with Unfair and Lovely, looks to combat cultural appropriation surrounding the bindi, the dot worn on the centre of the forehead of many South Asian women. Young women who grew up being ridiculed for their cultural practices are now being empowered to embrace them, posting powerful selfies of themselves wearing a bindi, which has both cultural and religious significance for South Asian women.

Jones shared her thoughts on working hand in hand with a more diverse range of Women of Colour (WoC) to elevate the platform of the initiative in which she mentioned:

”I’m happy it’s blown up and that many are using it to heal from abuse they’ve faced due to their skin colour. I think the invitation to collaborate with #reclaimthebindi for Reclaim The Bindi Week definitely helped. It’s also devastating how quickly the hashtag picked up steam, because it highlights how desperately our communities needed a space that represents dark-skinned people of colour.”

With thousands of online followers, Reclaim the Bindi has allowed young women to celebrate their skin colour, and the culture that comes with being said skin colour. Women’s Post spoke to founder of Reclaim the Bindi on the phone. While wishing to stay anonymous to avoid taking the spotlight away from the movement, she expressed her appreciation of being able to initiate this movement online, as it allows people to really educate themselves on the subject.

heera”It’s a great initiative.” says Heera Sri, a supporter of Reclaim the Bindi and a student at York University with a large Instagram following herself. ”It’s making a lot of women feel more comfortable and come into their own skin. It’s all about loving yourself. Personally, I went through my own journey of embracing my dark skin and love that there’s women looking to provide a back bone for those who don’t have one yet. We live in a progressive country and there’s so much diversity, so I don’t see why being dark skinned should restrict you from anything. ”

South Asian women often indulge in Bollywood movies, hoping to find their very own prince charming at the GO Station one day. However, even in an industry that can easily embrace darker-skinned women, there is a surge in lightening cream endorsements and ‘dusky’ girls who gradually become less dusky as they excel in their acting careers. The Tamil movie industry, Heera mentions, borrows actresses from Northern Sri Lanka and India to play Tamil characters. In a time when we crave colour on TV screens and movie theatres, most recently with #OscarsSoWhite, how come we’re not asking for the same back at home?

12834876_10153579087697637_1199498983_nOn the topic of cultural norms and harmful beauty standards, Ramisa Tasfia, a student at the University of Toronto Scarborough, says, “Treatments like skin bleaching or products like Fair & Lovely definitely perpetuate shadeism by promoting the idea that lighter is better. I feel that colorism is a result of systemic racism within our own cultures; partly believing that whiter people hold more power and beauty. I’ve never known dark skin to be ugly, or unappealing than light skin—but as I grew older I became more exposed to the obvious signs that lighter skin is favoured over darker skin.”

Jones created the #UnfairandLovely hashtag to encourage all women, with an emphasis on South Asian women, to embrace their natural colour and revel in their own beauty. But,  Jones wants people to know the campaign is for everyone: “Some outlets have falsely reported that #unfairandlovely is only for dark-skinned South Asian women, but this is false. It’s for dark-skinned people of colour who are women, genderqueer, non-binary, etc.”

Amina Mohammed, former editor in chief of The Muslim Voice, shared her take 10734038_10152905141136458_2294525185944902355_non the movement through her perspective as a Somali-Canadian, Muslim woman. ”I’ve watched many of my South Asian friends struggle to come to terms with the dangers of colourism. I’ve seen them turn to whitening cream, lemon and potato peel facial masks, and extra sunscreen; all in an effort to appear fair (and lovely). I’ve also found the majority of anti-blackness from the South Asian community stems from this initial, internal adherence to a colourist social stratification. The Unfair and Lovely movement encourages probing dialogue, self-love, positivity and a re-definition of loveliness. I am all for this campaign, I think it’s great,” she added.

The movement comes in lieu of Reclaim the Bindi Week, which took place from March 8-14. As media got in on the story, we saw the impact that young women have of creating a voice for those who don’t. While movements like Unfair and Lovely are definitely steps towards ending discrimination, there will need to be a complete overhaul of the collective mindset of society to bring about an end to the prejudice that is shown against dark skinned people — not to mention the the superiority factor that is associated with fairness.

How has the Unfair and Lovely campaign affected you? Let us know in the comments below!

5 items for the ultimate spring outfit

Spring has arrived! And while putting away bulky sweaters and winter attire can be stressful for the average Canadian so accustomed to being hit with an unexpected (but very expected) snow storm, it’s safe to say that it’s time to bring some colour out. As we prepare for summer to arrive, it’s important to know how to transition yourself from -10 to +10. Don’t worry, Women’s Post is here to help you out. Here are the only five things you’ll need for the ultimate spring outfit.

1.Drench in a trench

When it’s too warm for parkas and too cold for shorts, the best way to stay comfy and neutral is with a cute trench coat. We love this one from Zara! Not only does a trench coat allow you to add some oumph to your outfit, its super versatile! Throw on a printed scarf or rock some cute booties to dress it up, or even pair with your weekend jeans for a fun day outdoors. We hear camel is in this season, along with nudes, but as Neelam Gill shows us, you can never go wrong with 50 shades of grey.

2. Cutie in booties

Peep toe booties are in, ladies. So get your pedicures on as you prep your feet for daily exposure after those long winter months hidden inside your socks. Nothing is cuter than these pairs from Steve Madden! Peep toe booties are perfect for spring —thermal boots are no longer required. (Halleluiah!) Pair your booties with something just as daring such as a printed coat, as worn by Naomi Harris above. Although you’ll want to wear these all season long, we do recommend rain boots for those wet days.

3. Corals and florals

 

“Florals for spring? Groundbreaking.” The devil couldn’t have said it better herself. Year after year, florals keep coming back as the must have piece for any spring outfit. This year, we’re seeing a lot of floral pants. Whether its going boho-chic with pallazzos or keeping it sophisticated and work-friendly with a straight look, a floral pant screams fun and flirty. Feeling bold? A floral top is the way to go for the ultimate fashion forward look. Beware, this look is not for the timid fashionista!

4. Bold yet simple

You just need one piece of accessory this season. And it needs to be big. Whether you opt for dangling earrings, or your new, favourite statement necklace, your choice of accessory is what pulls your whole look together. Rose golds were a fashion favourite for the past couple of years, but we’re loving our silvers this season! Skip the jewellery and opt for a bright and beautiful bag, in additional to some minimalistic pieces such as midi rings and bracelets. Whatever you choose, don’t forget to be unforgettable.

5. Stella under your ‘brella

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Because it’s going to rain. And after working so hard to put together your outfit, the last thing you want is to walk outside with a boring, black umbrella. Turn heads with a bold print or choose an umbrella bright as the sun. A true fashionista doesn’t let the weather get in the way of her style. She embraces it and makes it a part of her look. Just don’t blame us if you’re asked to share. 😉

Good luck and happy spring!

 

Have any more tips on the ultimate spring outfit. Let us know in the comments below!

Review: The People vs. OJ Simpson

I was only a few months old when the ‘Trial of the Century’ was taking place. Despite this fact, I grew up knowing the name OJ Simpson. I first heard it when my dad tried to hide the fact that he shrunk my mom’s wool sweater in the wash, who then playfully reminded him that he’s not OJ Simpson. He cannot get away with things. I didn’t know exactly what Simpson did or didn’t do at this point, but I did know that it was a name I should be aware of.  I knew ‘The Juice’ for what everyone perceived him as; a joke.

american-crime-story_1However, with the airing of the new American Crime Story mini series, The People vs. OJ Simpson, it’s becoming more apparent that although the OJ Simpson trial was, in fact, a joke– it wasn’t a very funny one. The words that do come to mind are more along the lines of, ‘what the actual… you know’.

I’m currently watching the series from the perspective of a millennial. Lost, confused, and downright mad. The experience is a first for me, which makes me feel rather apologetic for the audience that has to live through the proceedings of this bizarre trial once again. Although most people know what happens next, for me to realize that spoilers are available on the internet involving the real people — YouTube videos included, is reassuring. (Because I can’t sleep for a week not knowing if the gloves fit or not!)

My friends, who were also too young to have followed the case back in 1994, look at me in disbelief when I summarize what’s currently happening on the show they have yet to tune into. (Come on, ladies!) I myself catch myself pausing during pivotal scenes during the hour to refer to Google in order to confirm whether or not there really was a car chase and why no one said anything when ‘the Dream Team’ redecorated Simpson’s home. WHY? And yes youngsters, those things really did happen.

THE PEOPLE v. O.J. SIMPSON: AMERICAN CRIME STORY "From the Ashes of Tragedy" Episode 101 (Airs Tuesday, February 2, 10:00 pm/ep) -- - Pictured: (l-r) David Schwimmer as Robert Kardashian, John Travolta as Robert Shapiro. CR: Ray Mickshaw/FXWhat makes this series so appealing, besides the plot, is largely based on the actors and actresses that are depicting each of the persons involved in the trial. Although Cuba Gooding Jr doesn’t really fit the build of Simpson himself, his performance is doing justice to his lack of ‘juice.’ Also, can we talk about David Schwimmer as Robert Kardashian? His portrayal of OJ’s bestie and the father of the four obnoxious children in America is rather likeable.

And yes, actual person Marcia Clark probably does not enjoy watching award-winning actress, Sarah Paulson, replay her worst ever hair day — but it’s insightful to see this series make a case for her as the real hero in this tragedy. The fact that they dedicated an entire episode of a 10-part series to the trials and tribulations of a female prosecutor and her personal life demonstrates the challenges that we as women have to face– even in the midst of a case involving two brutal homicides. Because priorities.

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Race is also an important element of the show. With the #BlackLivesMatter movement gaining more recognition in lieu of recent police brutality cases, The People vs. OJ Simpson has only fueled the fire behind the controversy of the trial and the overall treatment of black people in society. The show is doing a phenomenal job in bringing forth the different perspectives of the people involved in the trial while still making Simpson look guilty. (Because he is.) Questions have also been raised as to why this series is tackling the trial after so long in the first place, but the discussions on race and gender equality along with the emergence of new evidence have made Simpson’s case more relevant than ever.

It doesn’t take effort to make the OJ Simpson more ‘TV friendly.’ With car chases, conspiracy theories, and plot twists, the trial not only divided the nation between #Guilty and #NotGuilty, it probably had producers and directors running for their phones to get started on their next crime story project. Despite the distractions that come with Paulson’s hair and John Travolta’s face (yikes!), American Crime Story: The People Vs. OJ Simpson is the only series involving a Kardashian that you’ll want to keep up with.

Are you watching The People Vs. OJ Simpson? Let us know what you think about it in the comments below! 

 

#OscarsSoWhite: Should you join the boycott?

The biggest weekend for actors and actresses in Hollywood is just a few days away.

It’s the event movie enthusiasts look forward to every year. The event that encourages us to watch films that provoke various think pieces, blogs, and occasional snore-fests. But, for a few years now, the Oscars have brought on a different kind of conversation – and quite an important one, for that matter. It’s the kind of conversation that causes a certain discomfort not only within the industry, but also in the midst of friends and colleagues who have to decide whether or not they’ll even be watching the Oscars this year. And if you do – should you be feeling guilty?

Awkward, indeed.

Basically, for the last two years, no person of colour was nominated in any of the major categories for the most prestigious award in Hollywood; the Academy Award. Upon realizing this rather questionable circumstance, many actors and actresses have called on a boycott, agreeing not to partake or watch the Oscars this year. The boycott may, or may not, have started with critically-acclaimed actor Will Smith, who was said to have been snubbed for his role in Concussion. Thus, the question arises as to why the boycott really began. Was it due to feelings of bitterness and denial that his performance, specifically, was snubbed, or is it because there truly is a lack of diversity that needs to be addressed? Well, here are my thoughts.

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No one is playing ‘the black card’ here. People of colour don’t want to be nominated because of their colour. They want to be nominated because of their talent, their performances, and their input to the film industry. Thus, the conversation about lack of diversity in the film industry is not an invitation to provide people of colour with pity nominations. It’s an invitation to look at the bigger picture, and the problems that are currently present in Hollywood. The fact that the Academy felt no persons of colour were eligible to be nominated for the past two years is not due to lack of talent in the industry – it’s due to the lack of roles available for people in the industry.

It’s not that progress isn’t being made. I see the slow emergence of colour in the industry when I flip through the channels on television. Still, very rarely, do I come across people who look like me. Sure, Viola Davis and Kerry Washington are tearing up Thursday nights and Priyanka Chopra is currently gracing Sunday’s with her South Asian beauty, but why is it when we watch movies, the people that are supposed to look like a certain race and ethnicity – don’t.

If you’ve seen John Oliver’s take on #OscarsSoWhite (below), you’ll know what I’m talking about. A compilation of video clips reveal that the lack of roles given to people of colour are largely due to part that it is in fact, white people, that are being cast in these roles instead. We saw this during the release of Aloha, where Emma Stone was cast as an island girl despite her pasty white skin and huge, buggy eyes. And we saw it again during the release of Prince of Persia, played by a very non-Persian looking Jake Gyllenhall. Although we’ve come a long way from black-face days in the industry, casting decisions like these really make me think – why?

The scariest part is, I, as a person of colour, did not notice the problem with some of these roles until it was pointed out to me. For me, watching Prince of Persia meant taking in the beauty of Jake Gyllenhall in a lot of armour. Gerard Butler in Gods of Egypt is equally yummy. We get so caught up in the star power, car explosions, sword fights, and all the basic eye-catching elements of a Hollywood movie, we forget to think about the more intellectual aspects such as historical accuracy and ethnic requirements.

The fact that we run off to the theatre as soon as a new Jennifer Lawrence movie or Leonardo DiCaprio flick comes out just comes to show that not only has Hollywood whitewashed the industry – it’s winning. With a few splashes of colour here and there with the likes of Lupita Nyong’o and Penelope Cruz, it seems the lack of diversity in Hollywood didn’t even matter to us – until now.

Stick all the nominees into one frame and the visual leaves you with a slap in the face. “Where are all the coloured people?” The thought flicks in our minds and the conversation is sparked. #OscarsSoWhite may not be the ideal hashtag for the board, but it’s the first step to initiating change and raising awareness. The only people we have to blame is ourselves for not starting the conversation sooner. Tje comments left by people named ‘John Goldman’ and ‘Stephanie Smith’ under these videos and think pieces will still leave you speechless. The reverse racism is prevalent and the thoughts and opinions are just plain ignorant.

To answer your question, there’s no need to boycott the Oscars. With Chris Rock set to host the night, we can already expect a plethora of black jokes and digs at the absence of colour in the hall. What we do need to do is continue the conversation and ask questions when casting mistakes happen again – as they will. With the hashtag circulating and the dialogue active, we’ve done what we need to do for now.

So it’s best that we acknowledge the nominees who have worked equally hard this year as the rest of us and enjoy the night. Besides, this may finally be the year that America’s sweetheart (and mine) wins an Oscar for his role in ‘The Revenant.’ DiCaprio, of all people, should know whats it’s like to be snubbed year after year. It’s only fair we repay the favour and root him on.

Of course, the decision is yours.

Will you be watching the Oscars this Sunday? Let us know in the comments below!

‘Tik tok’ goes the failed justice system

You may know her for her catchy, nonsensical lyrics and chart busting singles, but singer and rapper Kesha Rose has a lot more to offer to the industry than her musical talents. With an IQ of over 140, the 28-year-old blonde can easily be classified in the ‘near genius’ category. But you probably didn’t know that.

What you do know is that for about three years now, the often misunderstood artist was restricted of personal growth and creative expression due to her ongoing legal battle. The battle began in October 2014, when Kesha filed a lawsuit against her long-time producer Dr. Luke for “mental manipulation, emotional abuse and sexual assault”, and was looking to be freed from her contract with him. Kesha alleges that Dr. Luke abused her to the point where her self-confidence was destroyed, that he maintained control over her and body shamed her, and he referred to her as a “fat f*cking refrigerator.” She alleges that it got to the point where she nearly lost her life.

Google Kesha and a few things become apparent. The choice of pictures associated with these rather condescending articles and tabloid reports will have you comparing the incident to the ugly media frenzy Donald Trump faced after his ban-on-Muslims statement. And after countless unflattering pictures, demeaning headlines, and unnecessary remarks in the comment sections, it seems the media and justice system won in misrepresenting the singer – and women – yet again. Kesha’s motion for the preliminary injunction was denied.

The trial has nonetheless brought on heated debates and sparked conversations, especially on social media under the hashtag #FreeKesha.

So the question arises; what exactly is the solution?

“The solution is for power structures to recognize women’s accusations rather than refusing them in order for corporations to continue and exploit said women to make profits. It has to recognize women as real beings. It’s for men to be held accountable for their crimes against women and acknowledging that the root of all our problems is that we live in an established capitalist, hetero-patriarchal, sexist society where financial strength will always perpetuate rape culture,” believes Konain Edhi, Equity Studies major at the University of Toronto.

While attorneys for Dr. Luke and Sony have argued that Kesha is bound by the contract and must perform her obligations or be held accountable, the record label did tell the court the singer will be allowed to work with another producer.

Yay.

The ongoing support and sympathy the artist has received, including a generous $250K donation from Taylor Swift, is promising, but sadly, these type of events are not a rare occurrence. Time and time again, we are exposed to the injustice and double standards that women are subjected to face because of their gender. Whether its Chris Brown getting away with the most minimal sentence after horrifically beating Rihanna and still going on to have a thriving career in the music industry, or actor Roman Polanski receiving an Oscar to a standing ovation after being accused of raping a 13-year-old girl, what’s prevalent in the entertainment industry is that men always win.

Equally prevalent is the disregard for women’s mental and emotional health in the industry. We saw this during Britney Spears’ and Mariah Carey’s personal struggles back in the early 2000’s, which has since become a spectacle of memes and running jokes in the media. It’s not like the pressures of being international, Grammy Award winning pop stars had anything to with it. But sure, we’ll let One Direction’s Zayn Malik off the hook for venturing away from his boys into his own solo career because ‘he was sad.’ It’s only fair.

Let’s not forget about the absolutely outrageous dilemma that is occurring here at home involving former CBC radio broadcaster, Jian Ghomeshi, and his ongoing trial, whose allegations include a total of seven reported counts of sexual assault, and one count of overcoming resistance by choking. Despite Ghomeshi’s horrific accusations, the trial has focused largely on the actions of the alleged victims and their poor memories. The defence spent days poking holes in their stories — most of which happened over 10 years ago —and discrediting their statements in the court of law and public opinion.

What’s important is to understand it’s irrelevant to question the emails or text messages sent after the fact. It should not invalidate the very real trauma that women — who are essentially survivors of violence — face. People react to violence in different ways. That does not mean it is okay. Sadly, these crimes will deem the violent behaviour of these men as palatable and forgivable once again. As for women? Well, their actions will be labelled as defaming and victimizing.

We evidently have a long way to go before we can see change occurring in our society. For now, we are left to read articles featuring Kesha looking ‘trashy AF’ and listening to comments of how Jian Ghomeshi’s victims ‘need a lesson in common sense.’

What we can do while scrolling through our feed, as we’re exposed to both sides of the stories, is to join the conversation and provoke the change we’re looking for. Because it is only a matter of time before another woman comes forth with her story. Untill then, we must be aware, we must be prepared, and we must engage in tough conversations with our friends and family who may not understand that we do, indeed, live in a society that unjustifiably upholds rape and violence against women.

What are your thoughts on this story? Leave a comment below and tell us!

Winter weight gain: how to beat it

There’s nothing like the holidays to spend some quality time with your friends and family, get (almost) everything you’ve wanted from your wish list, and put on an extra 5-10 pounds in Christmas cookies. And although you’ve made a New Year’s resolution to lose the excess weight, it is now February and there’s still one more box of Ferro Rocher’s that has to be finished before you really get into your exercise and diet regime.

Let’s face it ladies, you’re in a slump. Even if you do make it on the treadmill at least once a week, that 20 minutes of sweat you produce won’t do anything if you indulge in a ‘’well-deserved’’ snack a few hours later. However, don’t lose hope. With lots of experimentation and a few breathless situations later, I’ve come up with the perfect plan to help you – and me – come out of the winter fatness slump.

Warning: the following tips may lead you to feel a sudden surge of happiness, cause your pants to fit a little better, and encourage you to put down that extra slice of pizza.

 

Skip the cardio

Cardio can get dull. It doesn’t matter if it’s Pitbull or Beyoncé, sometimes no chart-busting single can seem to get us pumped enough to run for more than 10 minutes on a treadmill. Skip the traditional cardio when you’re feeling less than motivated and spice it up. Fitness classes such as pole dancing, Zumba, or even yoga can give the same benefits (if not more) of cardio without provoking violent thoughts – like attacking that cake in your fridge. Put on an extra pair of tights and head out for a winter hike. Embrace your Canadian identity and take part in the plethora of winter sports that our country has to offer. Whether it’s skating, skiing, tobogganing, or even shovelling snow, changing up your routine allows your body to truly challenge itself. Within a few weeks, the feeling of waking up sore the day after a good workout will be so satisfying, you’ll crave it constantly.

Be Sneaky  

Waiting for your food to heat up? That’s 30 seconds of squats. Work on the 3rd floor? Take the stairs. If you sneak in physical activity within your daily life, you won’t feel as pained – except in your increasing health. Small steps such as parking your car in the furthest spot in the lot or getting off the public transit a couple of stops earlier just to take in those few freezing breaths of fresh air along with some much needed steps can help get you in the right direction towards a healthier lifestyle this winter. Although it may be hard, seeing as we haven’t felt the sun on our skin in what feels like a decade, your fitness regime shouldn’t freeze just because the lakes have.

F*ck Stress, Bench Press

Despite what you may have heard, lifting does not make you bulky. In fact, women’s hormones make it impossible to bulk up. That is, without incredible effort, high intensity workout plans and nutritional diets consisting of a lot of protein shakes. Lifting weights two to three times a week will help you lose that muffin top faster than an hour on the elliptical every day. On the plus side, all that lifting, pushing, and pressing that occurs during weight training can take out a lot of stress and anger that builds up from day to day experiences. It will also give your body a sculpted appearance, bring a certain glow to your skin, and give you an excuse to wear tanks tops and dresses all year long – because why not.

 

Let it go 

The end of the holiday season can bring on a lot of unnecessary stress. Getting our finances under control after spoiling our loved ones, and possibly ourselves, with gifts, heading back to the daily office routine, and not to mention the everlasting morning and evening winter — let’s just say it can all take a toll on our mental health. Whether you’re suffering from seasonal affective disorder or are just finding yourself in a slump, one quick fix is to get moving. Break into a sweat, get lost within the confines of your muscle movement, and get in tune with your physical and mental self. Oftentimes, it’s your mind that stops you from accomplishing the things that you want. Find a way to deal with your inner demons and learn to let it go. Whether it’s through talking to a family or friend, leaving town for a quick get away, or writing it down in a diary, learning to deal with stress and seasonal affective disorder can help you out of your slump faster then ever.

Find Your Motivation

Know thyself. If you have a strong reason for exercising, then you will be far more likely to follow through on your commitments. Whether it’s to lose weight, feel more energetic, increase cognitive function, build confidence, sleep better, run faster… know it. The secret to looking and feeling better about yourself isn’t in magazines. It isn’t in Nicki Minaj’s music video, nor is it on Instagram. It’s in your mind. Whether you think you need it or not, exercise is a must for everyone and anyone. Soon enough, spring will be here. Before you know it, you’ll will be forced out of your oversized knit sweaters and into something more fitting. And that’s something you’ll want to be prepared, right? Your summer body starts now.

Good luck!

Have any other suggestions on how to beat the winter slump? Let us know in the comments below!

 

How to be single: A Valentine’s Day Guide

So you’re single, huh? Another year, another day of love spent alone. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. There are plenty of things to do on Valentine’s Day, whether you’re with someone or not. We’ve created a list of super easy things you can do to feel the love, even if no one else will feel it with you.

Invest in a body pillow

Without the warmth of a significant other’s body cuddling yours, the night can get rather cold and lonely. You don’t need someone else’s hands to keep yours warm. Invest in a body pillow – they can be found at your local departmental store. The pillow is large enough to let you cuddle it in its entirety, leaving you no chance to miss real love. Your laptop can be used to stream a movie starring your favourite actor. We suggest someone in the likes of Ryan Gosling; a man that will surely never fail to make you warm inside.

Netflix and Chill

If you’re down with the lingo, you know by now that Netflix and Chill means to engage in the act of coitus. As in to have sex. However, with the lack of a person to do the deed with, you may find yourself in a little problem. So, take power and change the meaning of North America’s favourite phrase. You don’t necessarily have to have sex to Netflix and Chill. Grab a bunch of your other single friends and indulge in the beauty that is Magic Mike. Want a good laugh? 50 Shades of Grey is always a good choice! (Sorry, not sorry) Keep it light and avoid usual single go-to’s such as The Notebook. Don’t forget your calories – popcorn and chocolate are a must.

 

Wait till Monday

The day after Valentine’s might as well be the best day of the year. All those fancy boxed chocolates and love themed items go on sale for at least half the price.  The best part of purchasing these yummy goodness is that you don’t even have to share! Better yet? Fill your home with the wilting flowers from your local grocery store. There’s just something extra heartbreaking about dying flowers, right? Dry them out by leaving them in the dark or hanging them upside down. The DIY potpourri will have your house looking colourful and smelling great.

Date Yourself

Love yourself first! Make sure your comfortable getting lost in your old world and being left alone in your thoughts before you get lost in someone else’s. Take the time to get to know yourself. Do what you love to do most without having to worry about pleasing anyone else. Whether that’s indulging in your favourite movie, attempting to perfect your adult colouring book masterpiece, or throwing a dance party – the act of masturdating will never leave you disappointed.

Get cats

Cats may not be able to cook you dinner or get you that bracelet you’ve had your eye on, but they can give you the cuddles and love you’ve been looking for. Studies show that furry friends can alleviate stress and turn your ice cold heart into a warm glob.  Not a cat person? Choose from the plethora of other pets that you can domesticate! Dogs, birds, rabbits, a turtle are all excellent options. Pet it, feed it, and watch it sleep. These loved one will never leave the toilet seat up. And to that we say, thank you.

Don’t Be Sorry

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Being single isn’t the end of the world. In fact, think of all that stress you don’t have to feel by not worrying why he/she hasn’t called you back yet, whether or not they’ll like your gifts, how you’ll pretend to like theirs. Even if you’re ready to be in a relationship or if you haven’t got the time for it in your life right now, what’s important to remember is that your Mr. and Ms. Right will show up at your door step when the time is right – whenever that may be. Till then, keep doing you. Because you are great, my friend.

Let us know if you try anything from our suggestions this weekend. Don’t forget to leave a comment below. Happy Valentine’s Day, ladies!

Love,

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