On Feb. 8th, a 28-year-old woman in Vaughan was charged with sexually assaulting a male student. The allegations are being investigated by the York Regional Police after someone came forward with information about a supply teacher for the York Catholic District School Board who had a sexual relationship with a teen between October and December 2017.
The supply teacher was employed occasionally since 2014. She is being charged with three counts of sexual assault and three counts of sexual exploitation.
Stories like these are rarely reported. The idea of a woman sexually assaulting a man is something many can’t fathom, but it does exist. According to a 2012 UCLA study, 38 per cent of all rape and sexual assaults are committed against men. The Canadian Children’s Rights Council, a non-profit that advocates on behalf of Canadian children, estimates that 86 per cent of these victims are dismissed, which leads to an increasing amount of unreported incidents.
There is also evidence that the number of sexual violence that occurs to men and women in their teens is rather similar — a difference between one in five and one in four.
“While the majority of sexual abuse is by males on females, anyone can be a victim of sexual trauma,” the men’s trauma centre in Victoria, B.C. says on their website. “Research suggests that between 20 and 30 per cent of all male children are sexually abused before the age of eighteen.”
“Despite the media stories of male survivors of abuse that have come out over the past few years, many people remain unable or unwilling to respond to this problem and the long term damage it creates both individually and at a societal level.”
The stigma associated with male victims of sexual assault if much different than that of women. While people think a woman may have “deserved it” for leading a guy on or acting in a way that could be described as promiscuous, it is assumed a man is enjoying whatever experience he is thrust into. That complaining about being forced to have sex is something a man would never do, and therefore it is not possible for a man to be raped or sexually harassed.
While it may be more rare for an adult man to be sexually victimized, it does happen, and those cases should be treated with the same level of respect and consideration as other stories shared in the MeToo movement.
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its a sad truth which is often neglected by media and society
Hello,
Thank you so much for writing this article <3. This is an issue that is so often swept aside, and, even I, have only come across the double standards of sexism, specifically sexual abuse, this year. Its mad that the world can care so much for a denominator such as gender when it should not matter, consent has nothing to do with gender, sexuality, skin tone, or age (although those underage cannot consent properly). We are all human, and these cases (under the law and in society's eye) should be treated not by standards such as gender, but by individuals involved. To say that all men are part of the problem, or abusive, is like saying all Caucasians are racist. We are individuals with different experiences, who we are not truly being determined by gender but by genetic predisposition and the way we are raised… we cannot live in a collective society that takes abstract ideas, such as gender, and slots them in as important to laws or crimes committed. *sigh* thank you for writing this, this issue begs for an awareness that it can't seem to get.
Sincerely,
Rather-not-say.